Love Talks, Money Walks
It’s amazing how many businesses use celebration times to try to sell you things you don’t need!
I think the way they justify it is that giving someone a gift shows them love...well I have only one thing to say:
Seulement s'ils parlent la même langue
Do you understand? No?
It’s french & means “only if you speak the same language”
You see you just didn’t get that phrase did you? It didn’t mean anything to you - because you don’t speak french.
To communicate love - it is the same - the person you want to show love to must understand the language.
So is your husband / dad a GIFT person?
Sure - he may be happy to give gifts but maybe that’s because you aren’t very good at speaking other languages?!
It’s often the same with kids - they want money but VALUE & ENJOY the time you spend with them a lot more. The largest sum of cash as a present may be forgotten in 2 months - but the holiday you took with them is still fondly remembered 30 years later!
The Language of Love
We have all been Created with the ability and desire to love and be loved. But we all communicate this and receive in different ways.
Here’s Five Easy Ways: (from Gary Chapman’s book the five love languages and Growing Kids Gods Way parenting course)
Quality Time - time dedicated to someone. Being with them in mind body & spirit (not reading the paper watching TV etc)
Acts of Service - doing a job / chore for them - taking the rubbish out, looking after the kids, vacuuming etc
Words of Affirmation - speaking nice things to & about them - encouragement (the OPPOSITE of sarcasm)
Physical Touch - a touch, a hug, a kiss, holding hands etc
Gift Giving - a note, sms, message, flowers, anything - often means more when made.
You might even be able to kill two birds with one stone - ie a poem is a gift and has words of affirmation.
The biggest thing is to speak the language of the one you want to show love to. Don’t know what their is? LOOK! It is how they normally show love. Do they always touch you? Maybe this annoys you - but to them they are saying “I love you”. Do they always want to phone & talk to you or spend time? Are they annoyed if simple chores get over-looked or forgotten? Do they do things for you
When you speak someone’s language THEY GET IT!
So this Fathers Day think twice before spending money on a gift he may not like...think again!
Speak his language and remember God Speaks Yours!